Stop Hitting the Reset Button: 5 Steps to Make Your Dream a Reality

Many women in their second act of life carry a secret dream in their hearts—a tender, quiet desire that has been with them for years.

This dream is often deeply personal and fiercely protected, yet rarely spoken aloud.

Maybe it’s writing a novel, running a marathon, becoming a master gardener, learning to flamenco dance, launching a small business, becoming an artist, traveling to Patagonia or starting a new adventure that feels almost impossible.

But there’s a nagging question that often gets in the way: “Does this dream even matter in the grand scheme of things?”

“Maybe, it is too late and besides I am too old for childish dream.”

It’s common to feel a sense of inadequacy about pursuing such dreams.

After all, we’ve been conditioned to think that if something doesn’t serve our families, careers, or communities in an obvious way, it might not be worth pursuing.

Many of us feel stuck in the “same old” routine because we’re unsure if our dreams matter enough to prioritize them.

But here’s a comforting truth: your dream does matter, and it’s worth your time and effort.

If you’re feeling stuck and questioning your ability to achieve your goal, here are some steps to help you move from doubt to action:

Step 1: Acknowledge the Feeling of Inadequacy, Then Challenge It

Feeling inadequate or unworthy of pursuing your dream is normal, but it doesn’t have to define you.

Start by acknowledging these feelings without judgment.

Ask yourself: “Why do I feel this way?” “What am I making this mean?”

Often, our sense of inadequacy comes from past experiences or the fear of failure.

Write down these thoughts and then challenge them.

Replace “I’m not good enough” with “I’m learning and growing every day” or “I have the right to pursue what brings me joy.”

Step 2: Recognize the Value of Your Dream

Your dream is not trivial. It is an expression of your unique self—a part of you that deserves attention and nurturing.

Ask yourself: “What would my life look like if I gave this dream the time and space it deserves?”

Understand that the value of your dream isn’t just in achieving it but in what it brings to your life: joy, fulfillment, growth, and a sense of purpose.

It’s easy to feel guilty for wanting something for yourself, especially if it feels indulgent.

But remember, your dreams matter because you matter.

You don’t need anyone else’s permission to pursue what’s in your heart.

Start by giving yourself that permission.

Remind yourself that prioritizing your dreams doesn’t mean you’re neglecting other responsibilities; it means you’re honoring a part of yourself that has been waiting to be seen.

Step 3: Start with Tiny, Consistent Actions

Dreams can feel overwhelming when viewed as massive, distant goals.

Instead, break them down into tiny, manageable steps.

Start small—set aside just 10 minutes a day to work on your dream.

Consistency is more important than intensity.

Each small step builds confidence, reduces the feeling of inadequacy, and slowly turns the “impossible” into the “possible.”

Step 4: Reframe the Question: Do My Dreams Matter?

Instead of asking if your dreams matter in the grand scheme, ask, “Do my dreams matter to me?”

The answer is likely a resounding yes.

Your dreams don’t have to change the world to be valuable.

They only need to change your world.

Remember, when you pursue what lights you up, you inspire others around you to do the same.

The ripple effect of living a fulfilled, authentic life is far-reaching.

Step 5: Accept Imperfection and Keep Moving Forward

Perfectionism often keeps us stuck, convinced we’re not ready or capable.

Let go of the idea that you must do it perfectly or not at all.

Allow yourself to be a beginner, to make mistakes, and to learn along the way.

Every step, however imperfect, is progress.

It’s in the doing, the trying, the experimenting, that we find growth and fulfillment.

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From Doubt to Dream: Make the Choice Today

Remember, feeling inadequate or questioning the value of your dreams is normal.

But these feelings don’t have to stop you.

Instead, use them as a sign that your dream is worth pursuing.

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Whether it's painting that canvas in your unique style, starting a side business that is fun, or getting back into shape to run a 5K, your dream is more than just a fleeting thought—it's a vision waiting to come alive.

I’m here to help you take that first step.

Together, we’ll uncover one thing you can do right now to get the dream ball rolling.

It doesn't have to be big or complicated; it just has to be yours.

Schedule a free 30 minute call with me and I will help you stop waiting and start creating.