Why We Think We Could’ve Done Better

and 💛 Why This Hurts So Much

When Will It Feel Like Enough?

There’s a part of me—maybe a part of you too—that whispers:

“If I just finish this painting, then I’ll feel proud.”

“If I just get better at showing up… then I’ll finally feel like I’m enough.”

It’s quiet, that voice. Reasonable. It sounds like motivation, like discipline, like something good.

But underneath?

It’s asking a much harder question:

What if no matter how much I do, it will never be enough to silence the doubt inside me?

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A few years ago, I finished a big creative project.

It was something I had dreamed about. Planned for. Poured long nights and vulnerable mornings into. It meant something.

And when I finished?

Everyone around me was proud. They celebrated. They said, “You did it!”

And I smiled and nodded and said the right things.

But inside?

I felt… almost nothing.

Except a whisper:
“It should have been better.”
“You could have done more.”
“Don’t rest yet—you still have so far to go.”

Without even realizing it, I moved the goalpost. Again.

I robbed myself of the sacred pride I had earned just by showing up.

And it broke my heart a little. Even as I kept marching forward.

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Creative women carry an invisible weight:

We were taught that "enough" is always just out of reach.